Fatherhood brings responsibility

Published 9:38 pm Saturday, January 14, 2012

Forgive me if I have a few more typos than normal, a few more grammatical errors than usual. Apparently, welcoming a child into the world comes with a few more sacrifices than I fully appreciated. Sleep being the main sacrifice.

Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t trade a thing and am over the moon about the birth of my son. Needless to say, my life is not only changed forever, but changed for the better.

A few months ago, I wrote in a column about how it amazed me how a man — a man worth the title of being called a man — would walk away from the responsibility he had in being a father.

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I found it amazing how some so-called men would not want to be a part of the miracle they had a hand in making.

I understand some births are not as celebrated or welcomed as others. There are those pregnancies that are unplanned and unexpected that give the parents pause for concern or anxiety. Believe me, I understand it.

But, once that concern, that anxiety wanes, what settles in its place is the realization that you are about to be a parent, a mother or a father. You are about to have the weight of responsibility for another life thrust upon you and it is something that must be taken seriously, not simply shrugged off.

How so many men (and I use that term loosely) can simply push aside their responsibility of being a father — a role model — to their child, is amazing and disturbing all at the same time.

In the past few days, I have seen my son born, slept in a recliner in a hospital room, learned how to change diapers and then proceeded to do whatever I could to help my wife at home.

I am still a long way from feeling comfortable when I hold him. Everyone keeps telling me not to worry, “you’re not going to break him.”  With that said, I simply melt when I hold him, when he lays on my chest or when I hear him cry.

Trust me, there will not be books written or stories told about the parenting skills I am about to impart on my young son. I am a flawed individual who simply wants to do the best I can when it comes to my family. And when it comes right down to it that is all anyone can do.