Bullying Prevention Month and why bullying hurts

Published 9:55pm Tuesday, October 30, 2012

October is Bully Prevention Month and I strongly believe that measurable and manageable critical control points are needed where bullying will be prevented, minimized and controlled.

Bullying should not be tolerated particularly in the school environment because of its adverse effects. Reliable research affirms that bullying can lead to a child not interested in school; it can result in a lack of ability for the student to concentrate, loss of desire in their positive achievement and an increase in the number of drop out students.

Blessed are the people who utilize their talents and gifts or advantages for positive activities, but not for recklessly intimidating and hurting of others; who looks out for the weak; who positions themself more as a friend than enemy; who understands role-playing and not role conflicting; and who collaborates meaningfully and not demarcate perilously.

I hate when the Selma City School Board bullies a superintendent. I detest when a superintendent bullies a principal or another administrator. I loathe when a principal bullies a teacher or another staff member. And it is repugnant to natural and heavenly justices when a teacher bullies a student for unjustified reasons.

I realize that sometimes it may be someone’s intention to just humble a person and not necessarily bully them — but regardless, it is a complex role to take up unless you are divinely directed.

At any rate, it is beneficial to be humble. Humility, from my perspective, has nothing to do with what you wear, what you drive, your purse or brief case, what you eat, or where you live. Lack of humility comes from believing that you are better or know more than everyone; not appreciating God; and out rightly lacking respect for others.

That is a rationale for a critical limit which helps to draw a line for your certain actions. People should always know when to stop inflicting pain. Bullying can be covert or overt. People can quietly or sleekly cause others an emotional damage.

For example, when you are asked to introduce fellow team members it is advisable to stick to what the individual will contribute to the team rather than to emphasize what makes a person different.

If you do not see the benefits the individual brings to your team, just say his name and the position held in your team or organization. When your remarks idolize polarization instead of unity, when you call people derogatory names, deprecate their backgrounds and their inabilities — that is bullying with growth impinging effect.

Any behavior that is done willfully and knowingly to humiliate and harm another person physically and emotionally is considered bullying. Students are strongly encouraged to report bullying to teachers, parents, or any adult they can trust.

When a child who loves to go to school, suddenly wants to avoid school, that is a sign that demands further investigation

I have always wondered why a student would come to school with a weapon knowing fully well that the punishment will be severe if they were to be caught. For all concerned, valuable power is actually depicted by how much you help ‚— not hurt — others.

I have seen people who for the sake of recognition by few admirers, they try to hurt even people that help them. That is bullying with spiritual consequences. We must continue to be empathetic to others. We must utilize our positions, use our talents and gifts wisely and we must continue to walk in love.

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