Peace is the foundation for happinessPublished 9:39pm Tuesday, January 3, 2012
Peace, love, hope and unity are the foundation of my column, and I will intensify my message in 2012. Where there is true love, there is always peace. Furthermore, peace is not necessarily the absence of conflict. Peace can still reign, even, in the midst of conflict.
I used to be a professional member of Institute of Management Consultants, American Management Association, Institute of Food Technologists, and the International Association of Conflict Management. Currently, I am not a member of these organizations, not because they are no longer effective in what they are meant for but because, in addition to the theories that I learned from them, I need more consultation with a factor that is omniscience, omnipresent, and omnipotent.
Do not get me wrong, professional associations, Group A or B, social clubs, political parties, fraternities, and sororities may serve you well in terms of net-working but they will not necessarily give a person or a place peace. Similarly, conflict managers will help with theories and rationale for certain actions but will not give lasting peace.
Conflict managers have a style that they call the Shark. Sharks do their best to overpower their opponents by forcing them to accept their solution to the conflict. Sharks are less interested in peace, friendship or other relationships as far as they achieve their personal goals. Sharks want to win and careless how they win and they win by attacking and overwhelming.
Another conflict style of interest to me is the Owl (problem solving). Owls very much value their own goals and their relationships. As far as owls are concerned, every conflict needs a solution. They work hard to satisfy their goal and the other side’s goal. Conflict to owls is a way to better relationships by reducing tensions. Owls maintain unity by seeking solutions that satisfy all concerned.
Conflict Management By Faith (CMBF), is a great strategy that will help you cut down on the unworthy affiliations that you are already attached to. When conflict arises, this style may not say much. You may think that they are ignoring you or the conflict but they are actually not. They truthfully believe that conflict or battle is not theirs, but God’s. They will fight you with intensive prayer and praise to God. They may even help or give you something in the midst of conflict and hand justice over to God.
If you are observant, you’ll notice them jotting down, reciting, or reading biblical lines like, “No weapon formed against me shall prosper, I shall condemn every tongue that rises against me,” “If God is for us or me, then who shall be against us,” “You pushed me that I may fall but God helped me,” “Behold all those who are incensed against me shall be ashamed and disgraced.” Above all, these great conflict management styles also believe that the peace that Jesus gives is not comparable to any theory the world or association will give.
Peace is a treasure. It has unimaginable economic, social, natural, and spiritual benefits to a society and a person. Regardless of what style a person embraces, it is pertinent that you leverage your point of difference to the extent that it establishes a lasting peace for your society and you.